Criticizing others can prove
destructive for them. It can also be very constructive and can
achieve the required goal if a certain decorum and etiquette
is followed. Five things are important in this regard:
1. Every criticism should begin
with acknowledgement of the good traits in the person we
intend to criticize. It will engender confidence and make us
stand among the well-wishers of that person.
2. Criticism should be directly
communicated to the person we intend to criticize instead of
talking to others. Such indirect comments may hurt that
person’s feelings when it becomes known and also create
3. Criticism should not be based
on hearsay and unfounded information. It should be based on
well-investigated facts and concrete data.
4. It is inappropriate to
criticize a person for a mistake at the very time he is making
it. This often creates a reaction in a person and also does
not allow him the opportunity to calmly reflect on the
substance of the critique.
5. Over-criticism or repetitive
criticism should be abstained from. More often than not it
proves counter-productive to the very objective we have in
6. Criticism should not be couched
in harsh words and foul language. The most substantive
criticism loses its impact if it is not conveyed in a polite
manner. People shy away from callous words.
7. The timing of criticism is very
important. We must find opportune moments – moments when a
person’s heart is inclined and his mind is receptive to