she can decide best what is appropriate for her while giving due weight to the
harmony that should be maintained between a wife and her husband. If she
believes that her decisions would not disturb the atmosphere of trust and faith,
she is perfectly allowed to do what she wishes to.
personally feel that sometimes things keep boiling up within a person till such
time he/she can no longer bottle them up. Then small exchanges of some
disapproving sentences take the form of full-blown disagreement which leads the
victims to excessiveness. I mean what your friend wishes to do is not a program
of one or two days. Is it? She wants to continue it. That ultimately means that
her husband will continue to observe that his wife is constantly disobeying him—
according to his viewpoint. I fear that these small taunting sentences then may
turn into complete disapproval which obviously can affect their relationship.
What I do not
understand is her hurry to do everything her way: she should first convince her
husband regarding the importance of learning and teaching Islam. In the life of
a couple, there come many occasions when no request is put down. I advise her to
wait for that moment and, as it comes, place her request before her husband,
which I believe he would never put down. I am asserting all this because the
process of learning and teaching Islam requires peace of mind. This is indeed
the toughest path to tread, you would agree. Let her settle down the matter with
her husband happily and peacefully. Then the world would be open to her to work
with utmost peace of mind.