Grieving for the Dead
Islamic Customs and Etiquette
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Answered by Dr. Shehzad Saleem

Why is it forbidden to grieve for more than three days after the death of someone? Is it in the control of a person not to grieve?


It is certainly not forbidden to feel aggrieved for a dead person for more than three days. To grieve for a person is not in one’s control. In fact, it is so natural that the Prophet (sws) himself wept at the death of his son Ibrāhīm:

When Ibrāhīm was about to die, the Prophet (sws), it is reported, picked him up, kissed him while tears were coming out of his eyes. One of his companions asked: O Prophet of Allah, do you cry also? The Prophet replied that this crying is a blessing and then while weeping remarked: Eyes shed tears and the heart is aggrieved but we shall only say that with which the Lord is pleased and we are sad at being separated from you O Ibrāhīm! (Bukhārī, Kitābu’l-Janā’iz)

The thing which is desirable is that a person should come back to his normal life routine by not later than three days. He should not just sit and sob after this period, but should try to adjust to the new situation.

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