Wives in the feudal cultures of most
Muslim countries are often faced with an ordeal at the hands
of their husbands: meagre pocket money. In more pathetic
situations, a wife never receives any pocket money at all.
Those of them who are working may not be facing such shameful
situations, but those who are not have to suffer a lot.
This is one of the huge malpractices on
the part of husbands that goes on unabated and unchecked. They
forget that they were entrusted with the financial
responsibility of their spouses by their religion and they end
up flouting this obligation.
In this regard, some points of note are:
1. The amount of the pocket money given
to the wife should be given according to the financial status
of the husband. What a pity if he is earning in millions and
just giving away a few thousand to the wife.
2. The pocket money is over and above
household expenses that are given to a wife to run the house.
This money is given to her for her own personal needs. Many
husbands wrongly think that a wife should save money from the
household expenses for herself.
3. The pocket money should be given a
periodic increase keeping in view inflation. Many husbands
shamefully pay the same amount they used to pay a decade or
even two decades ago.
4. The pocket money should be given
punctually before the start of each month. At times, the
pocket money is given but after a lot of begging and delays.
This damages the self-esteem of the wife and at times
embarrasses her so much that she stops asking.
5. Even if the wife is earning, pocket
money is still her religious right. She may be kind enough to
waive it or reduce it but a husband does not have any right to
unilaterally waive it off.
If husbands follow these rules, it is
expected that their wives will show gratitude to them but if
they do not, then they should not complain if their wives keep